Insights

I noticed it the first time but I wasn’t sure. So I chilled. The instrumentals kept creeping into my ears like beautiful incense and I wondered If most of our local artistes were immune to calm, insightful instrumentals.

The umpteenth time it played, I had confirmed my fears. This was my sub. Omari was subbing me but then I remembered I barely knew him or him me. Said a couple of HI(s) around school but that was about any contact we ever had. He wasn’t subbing me in particular. He was subbing myself myself and a billion other guys out there.

Guys prone to thinking they don’t become Exes. That no matter what, we can’t become leftovers. No, that’s a problem for through ladies. We leave rejuvenated like phoenixes reborn out of our ashes. The ladies could be the ashes for all we know but we don’t care. We just fly off to our next intending target, set the P, send the DMs and start the process all over again. Many walk around with this mentality and I daresay that’s a whole lot of bullshit.

It’s fair to say we are but visitors in this world and one day our souls would jet off to God knows where. So why delay or dilly dally? Since you only live once, live it large. Wreck hearts and leave self esteems destroyed in your paths.

We won’t be the first.
Our forefathers did exactly this.
They relegated their women to the background. Rendered them worthless. Barely worth a half-man. Inconceivable of anything great except It’s a delicious steamy pot of soup. They cast veils upon their faces like they didn’t subscribe for the same life package we had. Or they didn’t all suck identical mammary glands.

True, that situation was appalling.
Today, It’s worse. Balance has shifted slightly. Now we have two general classes of women; the good and the bad. And the bad are triumphing well. Or so they think. If only they understood that this same men would flutter to the sides of the good ones when marriage or anything serious beckons. They’ve failed to see beyond the one night stands and club orgies and rendezvous.

It’s sad to see that morals are considered with a pinch of salt. The crave (and craze) to enjoy life has clouded decent judgements.
Who’s to blame foe this?

I say everybody.

But permit me to remove the log in my eyes before I leave you to yours. I have lost one too many good girls in my short life in my quest to enjoy life just more. I aim high or so I think.  Video vixens, Club trouts and half naked ladies must be exploited and fast.
The struggle is real.
And If you can’t get any of them, you grab the nearest good girl and convert her. Immediately you’re done, you scamper off to your next prey… Promising heaven and earth and love that doesn’t exist. Consequentially, that “good-turned-bad” girl you left joins the lot and goes on rampage herself. Now she understands the concept of YOLO. Sad I tell you.

In conclusion, someone tweeted this this morning;

That She’s a good girl does not mean She’s the right one

True. Very true. Every good girl out there won’t fit in with your temperament. Do yourself and the world world a favour then and leave her to herself and let the right one find her. Don’t further invest in the bad girl’s ever growing reservoir.

“Falling in love is easy, Staying in love is the hard part.”
If you’re not ready, stay away from it.

I could have sugarcoated this but I’m done doing that anymore.

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This post was inspired by a single from revolutionary rapper and poet; Omari ( @AybeeOmari):
Bloom Baby Bloom

You should listen to it. It’s awesome and insightful. Just click the song title above to download it.

Have a wonderful day.

Mike Dammy

Sourced from Google.

A plea to the Ladies

“Hey There!”

“I had a dream about my future wife and you were the main act, I think you are the one for me”

“I think we’ve met before”

“You look familiar”

“Nice bag, my mum has the same type”

“You must have fallen from heaven because you look like one of them angels”

“From the first day I saw you…”

 

Apparently the older this world gets, the harder it becomes for us Guys to approach our female counterparts, and with the harder it gets, the best pick up lines have suddenly become lame; and innovation aint so easy either, its not as if we can just wake up every morning and think of dazzling lines that’ll get you girls hooked after our first sentence. To make it worse, it seems the prettier or hotter she is, the harder it is to woo her.

For example, a friend of mine happened to be walking down the road in my school and his friend called out to him and gestured that he should check out the girl right behind him.

He tried sha, he said Hi, she replied Hello and that was the end of their convo. apparently, something made him shy at that particular moment, I’m tempted to conclude that it was cos she was very pretty but I wont cover up for him especially wen that would be like self deceit. It might just have been easier for him to talk better if he had nothing to lose, if only she offered him a little help.

Your frowning faces and “Who the hell are you?” can be so demanding, and in our quest to suceed, we fail horribly. This explains why the bad guys are never simple. Just so you know, some of us can never be “bad”, give us a break and be a little accommodating when we walk up to you, its not as if you wont end up marrying us.

Smile a little and our confidence will escalate.

Giggle when we stammer and blank out and our self esteem would soar.

A big part of me tells me you ladies would simply laugh and ignore my pleas, I sincerely hope you dont.

If you do though, we’ll cope with it noni.

Sourced from Google.

Sourced from Google “Why can’t it be this easy”?

 

Damstylee

 

 

Dear Girls (From us Guys)

Found these post in my archives and I wanted you to see it :’)
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*Ladies, don’t assume that guys don’t care about where you are, because we do.
It makes us feel secure to know that our girlfriends aren’t off flirting with guys we’ve never heard of.

**Also, don’t talk about your ex-boyfriends.
We never have, nor ever will respect or like them, nor do we want to hear about them.
When you do, you’re asking your boyfriend to be jealous.
You’re asking your boyfriend to lose trust.

***On that, don’t hump everything that walks into the room.
We don’t care if you talk to other guys.
We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys.
But when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there.

****Also, when we tell you you’re pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don’t tell us we’re wrong.
We’ll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.

*****Don’t be mad when we hold the door open.
Smile and say “thank you.”
Let us pay for you.
Don’t feel bad.
We enjoy doing it.
It’s expected.
Just smile and say “thank you” and we would be fine.

******Kiss us when no one’s watching.
If you kiss us when you know nobody’s looking we’ll be more impressed.

*******You don’t have to get dressed up for us.
If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have, put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you are.

********Don’t flirt with guys when we’re not around.
We’ll find out. Trust us.
We have eyes everywhere.
And when we find out, we’re pissed.
Not necessarily with the guys you flirted with, more-so with you.

*********Don’t take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don’t get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

**********Don’t talk about how hot Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt is in front of us.
It’s boring, and we don’t care.
You have girlfriends for that.

***********Whatever happened to the word “handsome”?
Why does everything have to be “hot/sexy”?
I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with “Hey handsome!” instead of “Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy” or whatever else you can think of.
Claiming girls or guys to be “hot” shows immaturity.

************ Finally girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren’t being treated right by a guy, don’t wait for him to change.
Ditch his “sorry, disgrace-to-the-male-population” ass, and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.
Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest.
Someone like ME. 😀

Love,
Damstylee
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